About Real Talk Japanese

Hi, I’m Rei — born in Japan, raised in Japan, and still living here.

Real Talk Japanese exists because of a gap I kept noticing: the Japanese in textbooks and the Japanese we actually speak are two different languages. Textbooks teach you 「そうですね」; they don’t teach you when a Japanese person says it just to fill silence. They teach you that -kun is “for boys”; they don’t tell you why your female coworker gets called -kun by the boss.

This site covers the missing half:

  • How natives actually use words — nuance, context, and the unwritten rules
  • The Japanese that textbooks skip — slang, texting language, and real conversation patterns
  • Honest guides to learning tools — what’s worth your money and what isn’t, from someone who knows what natural Japanese sounds like

Everything here is written from a native speaker’s perspective, based on the Japanese spoken in Japan today — not the Japanese frozen in a 1990s textbook.

I write under a pen name and keep my day-to-day life private, but the perspective is real: this is how we actually talk.

Questions or requests for topics? Contact me — I read everything.

— Rei